When we first got sober some of us may have instantly wanted the people in our lives to trust us. We expected them to automatically forgive us for all the things we’d done while using. Maybe we even thought to ourselves, “I deserve for them to trust me because now I’m sober and I’ve changed.”
We quickly realized that we didn’t deserve their trust. We were irresponsible for so long. We lied, we cheated, we stole. Why should they think that we’d act any differently right away?
Those around us were right to second-guess us. We had not built any sort of trust back up. We owed it to them to prove, through our actions that we were worthy of their trust. It wasn’t easy. We couldn’t put any expectations on the ones we love. They deserved time and proof that we turned our lives around. We had to be patient with them because the more we pushed for their forgiveness the more we acted like the person who used drugs and alcohol and manipulated them so many times. The only thing that allowed them to trust us is TIME. It wasn’t easy to say the least. But seeing growth and change is a process and only happens through doing the next right thing. Eventually we regained their trust.
In case you didn’t know:
A survey by the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) indicates that on average 13. 2% of all people 16 or older drove under the influence of alcohol and 4.3% of this age group drove under the influence of illegal drugs in 2009. In an average year 30 million Americans drive drunk and 10 million drive impaired by illegal drugs
I am grateful I am able to trust. Today I will put my trust in God’s hands. I pray that I continue to trust God with all my problems.